Random Thoughts.....What Are You Thinking?

I'm gonna try to see it as an admin(as I've been one for over a decade).

Depending on the situation you may/may not tolerate the presence or return of someone previously banned, it definetely goes case by case, depending on how much they personally annoyed me and what the ban reasons were to begin with...
Now if someone were to use a non banned user account with their consent, that's pretty slippery. Again it might depend on the person as above, and one might be willing to close an eye on that, as long as this doesn't cause any further disruption(because it is not reasonable to tell someone who they can hang out with irl).
If however this starts raising problems, then there might come a direct request to the non banned person to not allow it anymore, or at the very least pretend it isn't happening, because otherwise they'd be implicated with the consequences.

Now to get more specific, it is my understanding that it was well known you were using Carrot's account as it was pretty overt and nobody seemed to care much. So I can only suppose it fell into the known and tolerated category.
As for the last straw...while pm harassment can be ground for sanctions, I really don't see why that would have to fall upon Carrot herself. I know I probably missed a lot of backroom drama as I've been told about this from third people, but still I don't think permabanning Carrot made any sense at all.

p.s. the most aggravating thing to me is that CENSORED isn't permabanned, more than anyone who is.