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Leviathan.Chaosx
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By Leviathan.Chaosx 2014-04-29 17:22:06
Females in general don't like to be called out on their double standards.
I don't see how this is double standard.
Maybe it was hormones, but I was pissy and didn't appreciate it when I was adjusting. It's not fun when you feel somewhat dehumanized when you get the opportunity to frolic amongst others. (Maybe over-thinking it at the time, yes.) What am I again? A cow? A broodmare? It's just a weird, transitional period.
/shrug But then you would get mad if your husband stops referring to you as his wife, and in circles you go. Too many factors in play, mood, frequency, relation of the moon to the sun, etc.
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Leviathan.Chaosx
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By Leviathan.Chaosx 2014-04-29 17:23:28
"I’ll keep it short and sweet — Family. Religion. Friendship. These are the three demons you must slay if you wish to succeed in business."
Siren.Mosin
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Game: FFXI
By Siren.Mosin 2014-04-29 17:24:56
"I’ll keep it short and sweet — Family. Religion. Friendship. These are the three demons you must slay if you wish to succeed in business."
that's nonsense.
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Forum Moderator
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By Anna Ruthven 2014-04-29 17:27:05
Carl Sagan said: Niel DeGrasse Tyson. I [le]terally came here to say this!
We did it, Ni!
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Bahamut.Kara
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Posts: 3544
By Bahamut.Kara 2014-04-29 17:28:21
It is jarring to only be associated with your husband's/partner's identity. Understandable sometimes when there is a level of unfamiliarity, but it is grating when it's done really often.
Especially, right after you had a kid. I found that kind of a tough adjustment. You're submitting yourself and getting a mental hold of your "new" self/role. It's quite annoying giving that and not being identified as you, as an individual.
I took a lot of random punches & evil looks for a number of years for people referring to my wife as "Chris's wife" she would get super pissed and say "I HAVE A NAME GOD DAMN IT, WTF IS WITH YOUR *** FRIENDS???" so on & so forth. I never really understood it. I guess my brain works different, in that, I don't give a flying *** about what other people call me, or think of me, for that matter. that and any form of 'self' I have, I think of as more of an annoyance than anything. if any of that makes any sense.
Depending on how it is stated in conversation (where more verbal emote is given) I really don't have a problem.
If you are standing next to the person and they are referring to as the wife/husband with no name, there could be a variety of reasons. Like they forgot the name.
In written form it is different, in my opinion.
-you don't get the verbal/physical clues
-you can edit and proof read
-there is a point you are trying to convey through writting, so what is that point
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Bismarck.Misao
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By Bismarck.Misao 2014-04-29 17:28:51
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Leviathan.Chaosx
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By Leviathan.Chaosx 2014-04-29 17:32:42
It is jarring to only be associated with your husband's/partner's identity. Understandable sometimes when there is a level of unfamiliarity, but it is grating when it's done really often.
Especially, right after you had a kid. I found that kind of a tough adjustment. You're submitting yourself and getting a mental hold of your "new" self/role. It's quite annoying giving that and not being identified as you, as an individual.
I took a lot of random punches & evil looks for a number of years for people referring to my wife as "Chris's wife" she would get super pissed and say "I HAVE A NAME GOD DAMN IT, WTF IS WITH YOUR *** FRIENDS???" so on & so forth. I never really understood it. I guess my brain works different, in that, I don't give a flying *** about what other people call me, or think of me, for that matter. that and any form of 'self' I have, I think of as more of an annoyance than anything. if any of that makes any sense.
Depending on how it is stated in conversation (where more verbal emote is given) I really don't have a problem.
If you are standing next to the person and they are referring to as the wife/husband with no name, there could be a variety of reasons. Like they forgot the name.
In written form it is different, in my opinion.
-you don't get the verbal/physical clues
-you can efit and proof read
-there is a point you are trying to convey through writting, so what is that point I actually see the problem here. You're reading too much into what people are saying to you when they do this.
The female mind often tries to read between the lines way too much rather than what is actually going on.
Bahamut.Kara
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By Bahamut.Kara 2014-04-29 17:34:17
Females in general don't like to be called out on their double standards.
I don't see how this is double standard.
Maybe it was hormones, but I was pissy and didn't appreciate it when I was adjusting. It's not fun when you feel somewhat dehumanized when you get the opportunity to frolic amongst others. (Maybe over-thinking it at the time, yes.) What am I again? A cow? A broodmare? It's just a weird, transitional period.
/shrug I've been married for 8 years and together for 15. It usually doesn't bother me that way, depending on the way it verbalized.
A lot of the time it is because they didn't remember my name. And vice versa with my co-workers.
But i get the broodmare feeling. Being tied 24/7 can leave its toil especially when there really isn't much way to aleivate that when breastfeeding.
I agree, it is a weird period
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Siren.Mosin
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Game: FFXI
By Siren.Mosin 2014-04-29 17:34:39
The female mind often tries to read between the lines way too much rather than what is actually going on.
ho ho ho
tell us more about the feeble female mind, O wise one!
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Bismarck.Leneth
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Game: FFXI
By Bismarck.Leneth 2014-04-29 17:36:23
Ragnarok.Josiahfk said: »I'm disappointed spirits-inventory. I would have thought you would have gotten that reference. I'm more focused on the content than where it comes from. Principles :P
There is also no context to show the poster's disagreement with the content so I have to treat it as serious statement.
also, to the chat with you~
Cerberus.Pleebo
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By Cerberus.Pleebo 2014-04-29 17:37:06
I've found the best way to approach conversation with women is to subtlety imply that *** be crazy.
Leviathan.Chaosx
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Game: FFXI
Posts: 20284
By Leviathan.Chaosx 2014-04-29 17:37:23
The female mind often tries to read between the lines way too much rather than what is actually going on.
ho ho ho
tell us more about the feeble female mind, O wise one! Time to bust out the science.
Quote: It’s not as simple as Mars vs. Venus, but scientists have identified intriguing differences in how men and women think that influence emotions, memory, business success, and even longevity.
In the largest brain imaging study ever conducted to compare male and female brains, Daniel Amen, MD, and other researchers analyzed imaging scans of 26,000 people. They discovered that women showed increased blood flow in 112 of the 128 brain regions they studied, indicating that on average, women’s brains are much more active than men’s.
The most striking difference between the sexes was that women have a much higher level of activity in the prefrontal cortex, an area that’s sometimes called “the brain’s CEO” because it governs planning, organization, impulse control, and learning from mistakes.
In the soon-to-be published study, men’s brains showed greater activity in regions associated with visual perception, tracking objects through space, and form recognition. However, these gender differences don’t mean that one sex has a mental edge over the other—just that their brains are wired differently. Source
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Leviathan.Chaosx
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By Leviathan.Chaosx 2014-04-29 17:38:25
Basically the female mind is more connected between emotions and reasoning, whereas the male brain is separated.
Bismarck.Misao
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By Bismarck.Misao 2014-04-29 17:39:41
no idea what's going on in here so.
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Bahamut.Kara
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By Bahamut.Kara 2014-04-29 17:40:26
I actually see the problem here. You're reading too much into what people are saying to you when they do this.
The female mind often tries to read between the lines way too much rather than what is actually going on.
Your first sentence could be right.
Your second sentence: seriously?
You came back from Russia recently where you were speaking Russian in a daily basis. As you use or learn another language body language conveys a lot when talking. This isn't a male/female thing this is a human communication thing (not talking sexual just conversational).
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Siren.Mosin
Serveur: Siren
Game: FFXI
By Siren.Mosin 2014-04-29 17:40:47
wtf does this:
Quote:
It’s not as simple as Mars vs. Venus, but scientists have identified intriguing differences in how men and women think that influence emotions, memory, business success, and even longevity.
In the largest brain imaging study ever conducted to compare male and female brains, Daniel Amen, MD, and other researchers analyzed imaging scans of 26,000 people. They discovered that women showed increased blood flow in 112 of the 128 brain regions they studied, indicating that on average, women’s brains are much more active than men’s.
The most striking difference between the sexes was that women have a much higher level of activity in the prefrontal cortex, an area that’s sometimes called “the brain’s CEO” because it governs planning, organization, impulse control, and learning from mistakes.
In the soon-to-be published study, men’s brains showed greater activity in regions associated with visual perception, tracking objects through space, and form recognition. However, these gender differences don’t mean that one sex has a mental edge over the other—just that their brains are wired differently.
Source
have to do with this:
The female mind often tries to read between the lines way too much rather than what is actually going on.
???
it's not exactly a straight line you're drawing there, guy.
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Bismarck.Misao
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By Bismarck.Misao 2014-04-29 17:42:45
Leviathan.Chaosx
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By Leviathan.Chaosx 2014-04-29 17:44:37
I actually see the problem here. You're reading too much into what people are saying to you when they do this.
The female mind often tries to read between the lines way too much rather than what is actually going on.
Your first sentence could be right.
Your second sentence: seriously?
You came back from Russia recently where you were speaking Russian in a daily basis. As you use or learn another language body language conveys a lot when talking. This isn't a male/female thing this is a human communication thing (not talking sexual just conversational). It's a biological thing.
Reading between the lines is a form of perception that the female mind excels at far better than males. Unfortunately they do it all the time without realizing. Much like males tend to be more aggressive by nature whether they want to admit it or not.
Valefor.Sehachan
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By Valefor.Sehachan 2014-04-29 17:45:41
It's not gender driven, there are many more important factors.
Cerberus.Pleebo
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By Cerberus.Pleebo 2014-04-29 17:45:42
Er, don't think that article says what you think it says.
Leviathan.Chaosx
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By Leviathan.Chaosx 2014-04-29 17:46:50
Male brains aren't connected in the middle. Very little blood flow.
Siren.Mosin
Serveur: Siren
Game: FFXI
By Siren.Mosin 2014-04-29 17:47:24
gentle jesus.
my poor daughters.
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Valefor.Sehachan
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Posts: 24219
By Valefor.Sehachan 2014-04-29 17:47:31
Male brains aren't connected in the middle. Very little blood flow. That's cause blood goes to the penis, since we're using stereotypes.
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Leviathan.Chaosx
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Game: FFXI
Posts: 20284
By Leviathan.Chaosx 2014-04-29 17:50:23
It's proven science. Nothing to do with society.
Quote: Scientists now know that sex hormones begin to exert their influence during development of the fetus. A recent study by Israeli researchers that examined male and female brains found distinct differences in the developing fetus at just 26 weeks of pregnancy. The disparities could be seen when using an ultrasound scanner. The corpus callosum -- the bridge of nerve tissue that connects the right and left sides of the brain -- had a thicker measurement in female fetuses than in male fetuses.
Observations of adult brains show that this area may remain stronger in females. "Females seem to have language functioning in both sides of the brain," says Martha Bridge Denckla, PhD, a research scientist at Kennedy Krieger Institute.
Consider these recent findings. Researchers, using brain imaging technology that captures blood flow to "working" parts of the brain, analyzed how men and women process language. All subjects listened to a novel. When males listened, only the left hemisphere of their brains was activated. The brains of female subjects, however, showed activity on both the left and right hemispheres.
This activity across both hemispheres of the brain may result in the strong language skills typically displayed by females. "If there's more area dedicated to a set of skills, it follows that the skills will be more refined," says David Geary, PhD, professor of psychological sciences at the University of Missouri. Source
Edit: As of 2010-10-05 14:48:06 CST, Ni reached 10,000 pages.
Since we all can't be on the same linkshell in game, this can be our cross server linkshell thread.
Like most linkshells, it can be pretty dead at times. Other times it's full of intense conversations about either rl, gear, goals, pokemon or anything else you want to contribute.
We can cover any sort of topic at all, within reason of the forum rules. No real main topic, just a bunch of FFXIAH friends/people coming on and discussing random things.
http://www.nationstates.net/nation=royal_kingdom_of_ni
Continuation from: http://www.ffxiah.com/forum/topic/2873/ffxiah-linkshell/732/#150486
Update: Sorry Eternaltriumph, too much has changed D: (Page 698)
Eternaltriumph said: Yeah Chuu. Bringing you up to speed, Ludoggy is the LS pedophile. I'm the fountain of random and useless knowledge that makes you go "Hrm" with the occasional side of "holy shit he said what?"
Kungfu is the LS nutjob, spouting super random things that are usually sexist, until Savvy or Alyria comes into the room. Then he's a classic case of sexual harrassment. Rumaha is also true to the second part; we're wondering about his sexuality though.
Daj is Ludoggy's gay lover. Not much else is known about this Asuran. Tairo is kinda new, but since is a female and Alyria's lesbian lover, she fit right in real quick.
Celene(F) and Rowland(M) are more of the shyer members, but often say things that are witty, have a good pun and sometimes cause three page discussions. Celene hates when people hit on her. It doesn't stop them from trying.
Krizz is just social and likes to kill time here during work Tbest is about the same, except tends to be a douche to guys and affectionate toward girls.
Alyria is the most social female, gets groped a lot without provoking it by others, and Tairo ends up stabbing people for it. Cai is just a barrel of lols, I might be gay for him. If I wasn't straight.
Not sure about Citag, s/he's new. Kiriyu is just an in-out kinda person. Says one thing every three days that every guy makes a big fuss over. Ludoggy gets really defensive since she's asian and underage (might be 18 now).
Artem is the wayward soul that makes you ponder the meaning of life by constantly reminding us life can suck. But he deals, and so do we. About the same for Savannah, except people are more "AWH!" to her because of a vagina involved.
Dasva is the ex military man (as is Krizz but this doesn't apply to him) who hates the world and plots a way to destroy most of it.
Number2 is kinda like a mix between Cai and I; never bashes, likes to laugh and has odd avatars. His current suits a lot of the convos this LS gets into. Barti is most well known for his moustache. He gives mousatche rides for a fee. I'm missing a few people but whatever. CARRY ON!
Luelle Smells.
Roster of FFXIAH Ni (as of April 1st, 2010 Pocoyo avatar craze)
One Year Anniversary!!!Asura.Ludoggy said: Happy b-day ls.
Heres my lame gift to AHLS, since Row is lame and took away the OP, I made my own!
Haseyo/Bignose: He's got a bigass nose, Leader of the RL avi revloution or some junk no one gives a crap about...crazy about his asian pop/rock bands and is a closet pedo. AKA LAME
Dameshi: wont level his sam sub and is a lolblu, LAME
Citag: Doesnt put out, Really lame
Dasva: Uses Chu as a cover up for his desire for me greased up and naked on his bed, Lame.
Rydiya/Bra+Panties: Secret lesbien, doesnt wear bra+panties, like to knit and other old people stuff (bingo)
Pikachu/Chu: Hi Chu, I love chu
Kryee/Socks: Noms on socks, wears the sam red pair everyday and frequently sniffs her arm pits.
Cheyne: Domo origoto, Mr Roboto...I think he's gay.
Urial: SOCCER IS LAME AND YOU'RE LAME.
Thundars: LOLCANADIAN
Spence: LOLFRENCHCANADIAN
Enterius/ghost: He's a ghost...he'll say something witty to me later.
Ixe: Ducky face and cant seem to get a straw in her mouth (can get other things in there though)
Mairah: She cool...lame
Bart: Full times OPO-OPO, free mustache rides otherwise LAME
Sav/Mango: Field trips, yay!
Aly/thatgreenmodthatwillbanmeifIsayanythingbad: *tapes*
Woody: You're not Italian...no tea for you.
Sectum: My apprentice...loves asian girls, loves to cook...he's awesome. put me in a story where I wasnt a pedo and that'd cool
Rum:STOP RAIDING MY BASEMENT AND TAKING AWAY MY GIRLS GAWD. Long Islander...lame
Valencea:Wont tell me the color of her undies, you lost the bet...no we cant get married...NO MEANS NO
Kojo:Open pedo...he likes scat, ewww
Tohsou: I think he's a pedo with a girlfriend as cover up, lame.
Kiriyu/strawberry: Lurk Less post moar! I see you what you are doing!
Krizz: Mohawk guy #1
Triet: Mohawk guy #1...wait
Bloodbathboy: The Hulk
Kungfuhustle: AH%DUE%$JNSRGHSRHHEYHEHSA Y%HEDHGSR EAT AHUYY DONKEY NUTS
Celene: Quit...Canadian...who the hell quits?
Tbest: MIA
Eternaltriumph: Where the hell has he been? Is he gone cause he got pussywhipped or something? Whatever...
#2: GOD...I miss him /cry
Luelle/otherlu: The Other Lu.
Zekky: Quit, kicking ass, raped me :\
Krystale/Girlwithpiercing: Magnets stick to her, Toke Canadian, hawt...she's 15 right?
Marzbarz: NINJA
Rowland: All your Pocoyo are belong to...him
Weewoo/Tool: He liked Asura and wont admit it.
Miemo: Has a mithra avi c.c
Kalyna: is a girl right? right? oh...lame
Gimmeurselables: TOO MUCH BOUNCE...TOO BIG, EWWWW
Sagittario: Lame elf whu runs around in a diaper subligar
Ludoggy: Faggot
Edit: The Family Ni Tree
Luelle's (And Citag's too!) birthday present
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Flionheart 22174 2008-11-17 14:28:15
Krizz 22085 2007-06-30 15:22:38
Haseyo 20875 2009-01-12 15:55:51
Dameshi 19807 2009-02-17 10:29:14
Urial 18636 2008-02-09 01:15:03
Spence 18475 2009-05-04 11:26:27
Kalyna 15001 2010-01-21 11:40:04
Rydiya 13469 2008-05-16 05:24:33
Alyria 12656 2007-10-23 10:58:35
Tigerwoods 10807 2007-03-14 21:10:43
Enternius 10382 2007-08-10 04:14:29
Slipispsycho 10072 2008-09-05 08:56:34
Rumaha 10000 2009-02-20 13:28:03
Kojo 9060 2007-06-30 17:46:02
Sevourn 8567 2009-02-10 00:10:20
Cheyne 8527 2007-04-27 12:27:54
Mabrook 8356 2008-07-01 00:53:38
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