Allowing Teens To Have Sex In The Family Home...

I dated a girl with the same issue, and yet her mom wouldn't let her get the birth control to help.

Although such a parenting policy would have to be carefully monitored and permitted judiciously based on the behaviors and maturity level of the teenager ... I really have no problem with this.

Sex is a normal, natural part of young adulthood. I'm pretty sure it's been happening for thousands and thousands of years. For whatever reason (thank you so much, Christianity), sex became taboo in American culture, to the point where it was deemed a sinful or shameful activity.
The so-called "sexual revolution" in the USA started in the 1970's and gained massive momentum for a decade or so until rapid increases in STD's and teenage pregnancies applied the brakes in the mid-80's somewhere. However, that only slowed the "revolution" down then ... and it's only really finally leveling off as we speak today.

Finally, it seems (maybe) we have a generation of early-middle-aged American adults that understand they have a responsibility to shape and guide their teenage children's sexual behaviors, with reverence and poise, rather than innuendo and anxiety.

Would you rather your teenage daughter have her first sexual encounter in the backseat of an extended-cab pick-up truck in a parking lot behind a strip mall?

and do what? not seek out birth control options? also just because your doctor is using scare tactics on your wife doesn't mean it's true. if your wife has a legitimate medical reason to not use birth control that's different, but that isn't what you've expressed to us here...

I've been raised with this fairly liberal standpoint. My mum has always been very open talking about sex and sexual topics with me and so from a young age I've understood about responsibility etc etc.

I've always been allowed to have female friends over, never had to keep my door open or anything like that and I was never "checked on". While this may sound fairly negligent, I was a fairly sensible child/teenager with great knowledge of the consequences of not using contraception, not being safe etc.

End of the day, successful as far as I'm concerned.

Who would have thought you would actually be on my good side on this thread.

/amazed

better question is, where did you go wrong as a parent that your daughter thinks doing that is a good idea?

young adults susceptibility to peer pressure is not enough of an indicator to suggest poor parenting.

Fair question.


Better answer.

your daughter is being peer pressured into having an absurd experience like that? peer pressure will get your kids having sex earlier, not ***like Elanabelle's lurid tale. acting out like that is indicative of previous sexual abuse or bad parenting. :/

I just can't understand that sex can possibly be this big a deal...
It's just sex...
Abortion is totally harmless, if needed >_>

That's sad. Was she always sickly?

It was mostly a lot of pain.

I think people see Jet and Elana's name and say "I HAVE TO DISAGREE WITH THIS!" in the heads instantly.

The entire pop culture (in America) is sex this, have sex sex sex look good be thin have big boobs be a giant muscle man HAVE SEX SEX SEX.

It pressures people to it.

Are you from the US? If so, what type of area did you grow up in? (Rural, city, etc.)

You'd be surprised the things people are peer pressured into both related and unrelated to sex.

all the while saying don't do it don't do it don't do it from many authoritative figures.

Every time I'm at the OB/GYN's office she says that everything is functioning properly.

Just saying...

Not having birth control can be more detrimental than living without it out of fear.

I think if it wasn't "DON'T DO SEX IT'S BAD" from authority and more "Well, honestly, we all want to have sex but you should think before you sleep or you could get screwed" teenagers would be very much better off.

But I do not have data to prove this. It's just a feeling, being a teenager and knowing teenagers.

it is not that absurd...

I've heard of much more awkward first timers.

I was born and raised in NYC, I went to boarding school in a remote mountain town in montana and then a traditional boarding prep school in connecticut. I got a pretty wide range!

in my experience, the anti-birth control scare tactics are a result of some men resenting that they can't fully control reproduction. it's just more religious insanity, and people who spout it off shouldn't be trusted unless they can explain themselves...

I'm on board with Elana and Jet on this subject. New topic, new day, new discussion...

drinking is legal in Ohio for those under 21 with parental supervision, it's probably the same in a few other states, I just know my own has laws for such for sure.

bingo!

there's also the fact that teenagers typical trust their peers more than their authoritative figures, peers are usually having sex+fun, authoritative figures are often seen as prudes+rules, who would you listen to?

Drink law is 18 here or 15 with parental supervision.

Agree there.

"everything is legal unless you get caught"

not saying give 14 year olds liquor daily, but if your 17-19 year old wants to throw down under the safety of your roof with your supervision, why not?

if anyone would succumb to peer pressure it would be us boarding school kids, since we only have each other and our parents live far away. I'm the authority! lol

You do realize I may soon be able to divide by 0 if you all keep this up

true to an extent, however as to that boarding school note I was referring to what weird places people end up doing it.

Don't...