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By Ramyrez 2016-07-27 14:12:28
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I don't know where to begin. I want to go watch a movie so I go watch a movie alone. She wants me to go watch a movie that I don't want to watch, so I don't go and it gets held against me. I'm in the wrong?

I don't see how or why, or why you'd be with someone who thinks that way.

The classic "what's yours is mine and what's mine is mine" joke is ridiculous. The problem is so many people accept it as factual because of their physical attraction to someone trumping every other aspect of their relationship.
 
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By Seha 2016-07-27 14:13:03
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This conversation reminds me of the days when I had a loveline on a forum I used to go to.. <.<
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By Ramyrez 2016-07-27 14:15:09
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If you truly expect a relationship where they're sensitive to your needs and whims but you don't need to be receptive to theirs and you legitimately can't understand why that's a problem, you don't need a romantic relationship, you need a professional relationship with a psychologist.

I'm not saying that to be flippant, funny, or insulting. I'm saying that you've probably got an (undiagnosed?) Autistic Spectrum or Personality disorder going on if your ability to work with social reciprocity is so damaged.
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By Valefor.Sehachan 2016-07-27 14:19:00
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Ramyrez said: »
Autistic Spectrum
It's a myth that autistic people are insensitive or can't feel empathy.

I do feel things for others, sometimes more than the person affected too. It's just difficulty in picking it up if not told outright. And even stronger difficulty with how to deal with it.
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By Ramyrez 2016-07-27 14:21:00
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Valefor.Sehachan said: »
Ramyrez said: »
Autistic Spectrum
It's a myth that autistic people are insensitive or can't feel empathy.

I do feel things for others, sometimes more than the person affected too. It's just difficulty in picking it up if not told outright. And even stronger difficulty with how to deal with it.

You're putting words into my mouth.

It's not about not being able to feel, it's about recognizing why you should. Or even just having it frustrate you to the point where you just shut down. Trust me. I'm very clear on the subject.

It's called a spectrum disorder for a reason. Very few presentations are exactly alike.
 
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By Valefor.Sehachan 2016-07-27 14:23:54
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Ramyrez, you realize I'm autistic right?
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By Ramyrez 2016-07-27 14:28:02
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Valefor.Sehachan said: »
Ramyrez, you realize I'm autistic right?

Okay. I was not pointedly aware, no. But it seems consistent and I'll try to keep it in mind when we have these interactions as you and I sometimes do where our points don't quite seem to get made to each other.

Not sure how the changes anything I'm saying, though, as I never said anything about his inability to feel. I said he may not be receptive/understanding of why he needs to be and I theorized he may have an undiagnosed personality disorder or be somewhere on the autistic spectrum. "Being autistic" covers a very, very wide range of symptoms, as I'm sure you know well. And may not even apply. As I said, I was theorizing an either/or based on his perceived problem with social reciprocity.

Edit: Also, I'm a big advocate for psychological treatment and de-stigmatization. I don't recommend him to treatment to be insulting the way some people around here do on occasion. I do it for the same reason I'd tell someone with uncontrolled blood sugar to go to a doctor. For the improvement of quality and longevity of life.
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By Anna Ruthven 2016-07-27 14:31:53
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Ramy being a damp towel. One way or another, he always finds a way.
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By Ramyrez 2016-07-27 14:32:56
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Ramy being a damp towel. One way or another, he always finds a way.

How am I the one being a damp towel here!?


Edit: that said, there's probably a reason for that.
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There's a bit of annoyance when you have just googled "blonde maid cosplay" and- DA-DING! a post report.
 
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By Ragnarok.Hevans 2016-07-27 18:07:19
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Asura.Yojimmbo said: »
I'm not shallow, just that I don't want to marry someone that can't go to all the places that I want to go to. I don't want to be a sugar daddy either. Why did you use exploitation? I'm not a deviant. >.> I wrote a lot more but went into a rant.



how would you even get to this point? if you love someone what's yours is theirs, and theirs is yours. if you really love them you wouldn't want to go somewhere they weren't going with you. sure you need space some times, but you're talking about marriage.

when you find real love none of those things matter. only being with them matters.


*edit* sounds like you're kind of selfish. not saying that as a bad thing. i'm kind of selfish, but that's why i'm not married and don't have kids. i'm not done being selfish. maybe with the right person in the next few years...
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By Valefor.Sehachan 2016-07-27 18:18:28
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Ragnarok.Hevans said: »
maybe with the right person in the next few years...
Under the right quantity of psychoactive substances..
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By Bismarck.Magnuss 2016-07-27 19:17:08
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Asura.Schizm said: »
So what sparked this, wanna or don't wanna get married talk?
It was me.

Schiz... will you marry me?
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By Yomisha 2016-07-27 19:20:59
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Well... since you're sort of on the subject, thought I'd share my cake toppers and comic boutonneires from the wedding. :D

And Hev is right, once you find the right person none of that matters. Not everyone is meant for marriage, etc.. Nothing wrong with that.

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By Ragnarok.Hevans 2016-07-27 19:21:12
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Asura.Schizm said: »
So what sparked this, wanna or don't wanna get married talk?


i'm pregnant
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