Which should speak a lot about my character over-all more than theirs, but that's not the issue.
Some are, regardless of what you do, lost causes.
Others are open to trying new things to let go of the past, even if begrudgingly so. It really comes down to actively letting go, one white-knuckled finger at a time.
Friend lives in the past, a lot; She knows it's unhealthy but she doesn't care. Over the past year she's begun to appear to find happiness in this unhealthy obsession of not letting go. All I want is for her to be happy so part of me says just do nothing and be able to process lose and move on. I wish she would just be able to let it go though and slowly regain full functionality emotionally but I'm starting to doubt if that's even right anymore when this jaded.
Do any of you have a friend like this? Blarg : /
When I was a teenager I was absolutely fixated on placing blame when things went wrong, whether it was relationships, economic hardships, or whatever, and ensuring the person "responsible" knew about it. :/ I think part has to do with personality and the way the person's head works, part has to do with how many 'new'/distracting things come along to otherwise occupy their energies, and part has to do with not realising fixating to that degree is just ultimately self-destructive. :/
Since then I've learned to read my own patterns and just set out to do new things when I get that upset. Maybe your friend just needs new things to distract her, and some unbiased insight on how unhealthy such fixation can be--at least as a friend you can control that side of things (even if you can't change how her mind works.) :/
This is a thread that I found on another website I post at. It can be really really interesting. I thought it deserved a place here.
Post your random thoughts for the day here, or anything else that intrigues you.
For starters, is it possible to give constructive critism to someone who doesn't have a neck? I totally just walked by a girl who didn't. Someone isn't getting a necklace for Valentines day!
And who decided black and white can't be colors? I want to say a racist. I really do.